As a man, your greatest testimony is probably not so much what your neighbor, work colleague, or church brethren surmise. I believe it lies in what your family concludes about you as a father or a husband. That’s where the ‘rubber hits the road’ for compassion, grace, and spiritual consistency. This is where at your weakest, the strength of the Saviour must shine through.
It’s not to say that we are to required to be perfect humans, but family life is an opportunity for the Lord to make up the slack, and our character shortfalls. We should reiterate -like the bridge in the song “Lead Me” by Sanctus Real… “Father, lead me with strong hands so I can lead them…” (Check out this link to a real man song!) Sanctus Real “Lead Me”
My mind always goes back to step-father Joseph. Can you imagine how his son (Jesus) felt, knowing that His dad stood by His mother (when any self-respecting Jewish man would have bailed from that relationship -with far less soul searching)? He chose to listen to God, and loved Mary as his own flesh. Joseph was kind, compassionate and not a jerk.
He was also an individual of sexual integrity. In Matthew 1:25, the Bible tells us that he did not consummate their marriage till after Jesus was born. His desires did not flounder in the swamp of selfishness, which as men we’ve all struggled to free ourselves – present company included. He chose first Mary’s physiological and psychological well being and deeply respected God’s mysterious will. Men, we could take a page from Joseph’s book.
This New Year, even though our children may not be members of the Trinity, and our wives’ names don’t rhyme with “airy”, let’s strive to live a testimony to the people whom we can most effectively influence to create a lasting, positive legacy. Let’s be the kind of Daddy and Husband God wants us to be!
Happy New year, and may you abide in redemptive peace and spiritual prosperity.